She comes first...
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..then it's your turn. And so this is the premise of this very enlightning book on how to pleasure a woman. The author (Kerner) really gives good advice and isn't coy about it, either. I liked the straightforwardness language and have found this book to be useful in the bedroom. Likewise, I also enjoyed "Sex Machine"--Kane and highly recommend it as well.
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Creepy Is As Creepy Does.
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This is yet another in the long line of books encouraging the sick 'n twisted self-denial inculcated in present day males by a society that, far from being patriarchal, is so riddled with misandry that the Word program even denies that 'misandry' is a word. The title says it all, guys, put yourself second YET AGAIN. This book will give any male who has not been ground down by the overwhelming societal requirement that we learn to be 'sensitive' the creeps. 'Sensitivity', by which is universally meant denial of our right to put our own needs on a par with a woman's, is just another tool to deny men the space to be men. And any guy who needs to be told the schoolyard 'techniques' in this book in order to please a woman is too pathetic to deserve to have sex in the first place. Before buying this book, a guy should ask himself: Is it even conceivable that I will ever see a title like 'He Comes First'? Since the only possible true answer is a resounding 'No', instead of reading this book, grunt, roll over, and go to sleep.
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If your into technique only
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If I was a man, and I needed to be told to flick my tongue when I'm down there, or rub it this way or that...well, maybe its me but I felt these were obvious techniques to try which your lady may or may not like. Can't a guy figure that out with each woman on his own? Isn't that half the fun? The title really has the best advice...the THINKING man.
As a woman reading the book, I can say that although some of these techniques might be enjoyable (although most of them I would just consider foreplay...they definite would not get me there), the MAIN important thing to satisfying me is what is going on in my head. Once my mind is in the right place my husbands technique is of secondary importance...and as long as he is somewhere in the vicinity and not doing anything too distracting I will be satisfied. For my husband and I, nighttime reading of erotica is what saved our sex lives. We can't wait to pull out the books (our favorites which never fail are Enchanted by Nancy Madore, Naughty Bedtime Stories by Joan Loyd and My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday). Reading one or two short stories relaxs me and helps me forget the problems of the day. Where I was almost never in the mood before I started reading at night, it is now a regular part of my life. Plus, the stories gave my husband and I an opening to talk about fantasies, and that has made things more fun in the bedroom too. If you really want to improve your sex life, get your significant other a pile of books. There are tons of them out there. The ones about fantasies are the best.
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Detailed and well researched manual
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Ian Kerner did a good job with this manual on how to perform cunnilingus. There is an in-depth presentation of the female genitalia and interesting facts that most men probably don’t know. He provides detailed instructions about what and how to do with your tongue to give her pleasure. If you are experienced, you may already know most of this stuff. Moreover, he stresses on the importance of communication between the two lovers. The woman should feel comfortable enough to share with him what feels good and what doesn’t. I think that this important and probably often neglected aspect of sex is properly discussed in this book. Additional book I found very helpful and valuable is “Scientifically guaranteed male multiple orgasms and ultimate sex” by Alan Ritz.
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Shazam!
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I read about this book on Salon.com and practically broke my neck getting to the bookstore to buy it. I annotated it thoroughly--"Ooooh, THIS sounds interesting!" "If you do this to me for 45 minutes like he says, I will whack you on the head with my shoes to get you to STOP!" "No, he's wrong about this, what does he know? I like it!" "NO! No counting! This isn't pushups!" "Yes, I want to feel this way about you." "I DO feel this way about you."--etc.--then gave it to my Captain Marvel, who is still reeling (after all these years) from all the useful information--which, I might add, he's putting to excellent use. It's about time we got real about all this. Yes, as Kerner says, real men go down--no excuses, no arguments--and here's what to do there, and here's why.
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